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From parties at exclusive clubs to office parties, planning needs to begin way before the event. Planning a party can be very hectic for any party or event planner, and keeping a few simple tips in mind should have your event going off without a hitch! Invitations & Crowd Control The first thing any party planner needs to get in order is the guest list. After that is settled upon, invitations should be printed up and decorated. Additionally, consider sending out wristbands with your party invitations. Identification wristbands are an easy and efficient way to get a large amount of people inside an event quickly. Crowd control is a huge issue when throwing any party. Instead of making guests carry...

The most essential element of constructing your own home bar would be the refrigeration, so make positive that you have all of the units ready Prior to you start constructing your house clubhouse. Refrigeration, piping for that sink, plus the drain for the sink are elements that must be regarded as 1st, along with placement. Ought to you desire to possess your taps ınside the front in the bar, the bar refrigerator will by necessity need to have to be portion of the design from the bartender. Other appliances, for example the sink, in the event you desire to possess a single, plus the ice maker will require water lines to and from. Household bars are typically the center of activity in a house...

Hospitality is the key to any industry. The same holds true in the hotel industry as well. Understand your travellers and offer them what they want. Travellers usually, prepare a checklist on what places they would cover the day one. If you have visited the places that you had planned to see the day one, you often end up thinking what to do next. Don't you see travellers saying: 'what will you do going back to the hotel so early', and you simply waste time in the same place that you have seen. So, the tip is keep your visitors or customers engaged. Keep travellers engaged, arrange for inmates' night out, club dinners, pub parties, arrange family events so that the family will be engaged in games...

Many individuals do not know everything they should know about fair labor practices and work in a place where labor laws are violated everyday. Knowing the truth about fair labor practices will ensure that you are receiving the right compensation for the work that you do as well as the right treatment from those above you in your work place. There are a number of ways in which employers will attempt to get around fair labor practices and employees should know that it is in no way right for an employer to do this. If you don't already know what your rights are in the workplace you should do some research fast so that you can start being treated fairly at your job. One common violation in the work...

If you have your own bar and you are trying to keep up with the trends as well as keep up with the expectations of your customers, you are probably wondering how you will be able to acquire the best bar supplies available in the market today, so you can provide the best bar experience for your old and new customers. Your bar may be a place where various events would take place for various individuals and various business events. Since people are expecting that they would be getting the right entertainment, the best service, and extraordinary food, it is necessary for you to make it to the point that you meet the expectations of each and every customer you have. So, how can you do this? First thing...

Business cards are such a reliable way of reminding the public of your business and what it stands for. These cards are small and easy to carry with you wherever you go, ready to hand them to anyone you meet who could possibly benefit your business. They are very reliable advertisements and if you distribute them correctly you can reach a lot of people in your area. To make them is easy and it can be done at a very low cost. You can design them and print them at home on your home computer and printer. The main thing is to make them eye catching so that when you distribute them the passers by will willingly take one from you and read the card without actually thinking about it. Once they have read...

New York City is known around the world for being a place where 'anything can happen' where 'dreams come true' and 'the sky's the limit'. These quotes are only a few of the reasons that actors, musicians, artists, and other creative minded individuals flock to New York City. Even models from all over America and the world come to New York City to get a fresh start, or perhaps jump-start their career. These fashion models in training are commonly known to carry portfolios, business cards, and headshots in order to score themselves a job while working as a waitress or a bar tender on the side. These days however are dwindling with the advent of web based technologies and web 2.0 social networking...

A little preparation before your vacation cruise or seminar cruise can make sure you are not bothered by sea sickness while at sea. Don't Go By Past Events Some of our cruise seminar customers assume they will be sea sick because they were sick on a previous boating excursion. Remember that the bigger the boat, the smoother the ride. Cruise ships are exceedingly large. Most are longer than a football field and their length and huge weight makes them very stable. They do not rock like smaller ships. Also, modern cruise ships have stabilizers and other devices that make the ride much more smooth than the sea. Just because you got sick in a small boat does not mean you will be sick on a huge cruise...

It is good to have in hand a checklist of items that need special attention, as a wedding checklist will guide you along on an organized path of carrying your wedding off with the fewer amounts of upsets or misunderstandings. Below are a few ideas of what should be included on your wedding checklist. The wedding attire checklist shall include a Bridal gown, Grooms tuxedo and their shoes as well as a bridal veil and tiara should be decided on. The bridal attire also includes the Best Man, Groomsmen & Ring Bearer's Attire as well as the Maid of Honor, Bride's Maids and Flower Girl Dresses. In addition, all issues concerning any alterations, cleaning and pressing of bridal items should be taken...

Ludicrous, mad? Actually no, this article tells you that one can learn to be happy. Being unhappy is a state of mind that is controllable. You see our thoughts dictate our happiness, so if one can accept that happiness is controllable then please read on I think this article will benefit you. I am sure that you too have felt from time to time that "why should I smile when there is nothing to smile about"! Or you wake up in the morning wishing you had rather stayed in bed. Or perhaps you have heard the saying "that guy or lady is so sour the milk in the fridge will go sour!" Frankly friend, this is a situation that is growing in popularity! People do not know how to be happy! Please allow me to share...

Confidence starts with overcoming your fears. A lot of men experience this fear of talking to women. There is nothing more effective way of overcoming your fear but to face it. And there are six effective ways to start overcoming your fear with women. 1. Choose a bar. I would suggest that you go alone. Being alone forces you to talk to people you do not know. This is a good opportunity to face your fear. Go ahead and try to talk to strangers. Talk to anyone. Try talking to the bar tender or the waitress. Or simply you can choose not to talk at all to anyone. Just get the feel of the bar. Then go home, but next time, try your best to talk to at least one stranger. 2. Relax. Take a deep breath and go...

Everyday inside the workplace leaders are tasked and traditionally trained to solve problems. Inside those same organizations the daily activities of manager's and leader's success is often based on how well they can execute and solve those problems. The problems leaders face can be focused around production, logistics, and customer service. The topic that will inevitably end up being discussed is the employee who is challenging to the team and the organization. As a corporate restaurant manager I had the opportunity to work in a restaurant in New Jersey. During the transition period into the restaurant, I had an opportunity to sit down with many employees and discuss how they felt about the...

Motivating your restaurant staff to work harder and smarter is a sometimes difficult task. If you are out of ideas regarding lazy, uncooperative, or surly staff members, here are some fresh thoughts to help you coax them into being proficient and effective employees. What do your other employee's think? If you have one or two individuals who you just can't seem to get along with or understand, ask their co-worker's opinions on the matter. It may be that the teenager who you consider sullen and uncooperative is dealing with a recent breakup or other personal issue. Perhaps one of the waitress' has just the right idea to motivate the slower moving employees. Involving the staff in the planning and...

To the untrained eye, the job of Restaurant Manager seems pretty easy. They hang out in cool restaurants all day, tasting great food, and shooting the breeze with customers. For the managers that are really good at their job, it really is this easy. A great manager shouldn't have much to do every day because he has spent so much time sharing his knowledge and experience with the rest of his staff, they take care of everything for him. For those that aren't quite at that level there are more things that need to be done. Ultimately, everything in the restaurant is the managers responsibility. Everything from schedules to clean bathrooms are on the managers shoulders. If a person calls in sick...

When it comes to making money, teens don't have too many options these days. The only way a teen can earn some cash, is using online jobs designed for teens. Since teens generally lack life experience and work experience, most employers aren't comfortable with hiring them, with the obvious exception of ultra simple low paying jobs (i.e busboy, cashier, fast food cook, etc.) So, where can an honest hardworking teen find a job that pays more than just minimum wage? Where can teens go to be taken seriously? Fortunately, the anonymity of the internet offers online jobs for teens with an even playing field. There are dozens of ways teens can earn money online, some of the more popular ones include...

Every trade has a special language and it is no different for bartenders? Impress your friends when you meet at your local watering whole by becoming familiar with the bartending terms that are used by professional bartenders. These are the terms and techniques we teach at Bartending School. Ice It's the secret ingredient of many drink recipes. Always use clean fresh ice. Stay away form ice that has been in your freezer unless it has recently been made. Old ice picks up flavors from frozen foods and it will affect the flavor of the drink. Shaking Shake drinks that contain hard to mix ingredient like fruit juices or cream. These ingredients have different densities and have to be shaken vigorously to...

Bartending can be a lucrative job, either part time or full time. Bartenders are paid an hourly salary and earn tips, usually based on their performance and quality of service. The amount of money you can make as a bartender is capped only by your ability and the time and effort you're willing to put into it. The working atmosphere itself can be fun and laid back, or it can be stressful. How you perceive the situation depends mostly on what kind of person you are, how well prepared you are for the work, and how you hold up under pressure. Succeeding as a bartender will require you to be a people person. You'll be dealing with different people, attitudes and conversation for your entire shift. You'll...

ign="center"> Disposable gas cartridges that are of high-grade quality are essential to creating the kind of desserts and drinks that would appeal to the discriminating taste of your customers. It is not enough that you have the right ingredients, the right recipes, and the highly skilled chefs, bakers, and bartenders in your kitchen and bar. You also need to have the right tools and gas cylinders at hand to produce special concoctions with “yummy ness” written all over it. Get the right fizz to the special drinks that you will serve with the use of a soda siphon and CO2 gas cartridges. The carbon dioxide, of food grade quality, would carbonate your beverages. It would produce the...

estion that this is going to be expensive, but there are some things you can do to try to keep the cost more moderate. You might begin by stocking only the basic liquors. And, in any case, you do not need to purchase the premium brands at their whopping premium prices. If you really like them though, purchase enough for you and perhaps the one or two guests that can tell the difference, most people can’t tell the difference between a twenty dollar bottle of scotch and two hundred dollar bottle of scotch. The truth of the matter is that most don’t care. Basic Liquors These are a must to have in any home bar. With them, you can mix many a fine drink and they are the basis of most mixed...

With the Christmas festivities in full swing it’s the perfect time to start organising your New Year plans. Everyone loves to have fun at this time of year so treating your nearest and dearest to a Hogmanay party will ensure you start the New Year off with a bang. If you want to throw a truly memorable shindig there a few things you can do to make sure your guests have the best time and your party goes without a hitch. New Year is the perfect time to reconnect with all those people you have been too busy to see throughout the year so make sure you get your invitations out early. Lots of people have a busy schedule over the festive period so booking them in advance will make sure your party is the...

> Some of the famous Kosher caterers have collaborated and worked as a team with the world famous chefs. Be it any function, there catering services make every moment of clients and their special events memorable. Kosher catering offers all kinds of kosher food services. They make every occasion special and accept orders for wedding, family get-together, parties, and many other special functions. They have delicious variety of food items with artistic, original and classy decoration. The food is awesomely decorated. They have menus for every occasion with flexible budgets to meet customer’s requirements. The Kosher food served by kosher catering services is of excellent quality. Kosher...

When cruising, the time used is often in days or weeks. With that span of time, you are usually on the sea sailing and relaxing. Still, there still is a question left unanswered. What makes the cruising enjoyable? Is it because of the facilities on the vessel, sceneries and countries explored, or the people who work in the ship? These questions are the ones being answered when checking how successful the whole cruise is. With the number of people interacting in one cruise, it can be considered as a community. In cruise workers, crews, staffs, and clients alike interact with each other and bonds are made. Plus, workers do not just simply work because they also enjoy. Cruise ship jobs are jobs paid to...

Networking is no newbie to the world of business (or employment); from business deals to job leads, networking has always been the way to go. It is an undisputed fact that almost 75 to 80% of jobs are filled through networking. This trend doesn't come as a surprise though; don't we all love to shop at places or dine at restaurants recommended to us by our trusted friends? In a similar manner, corporations, too, like to hire employees referred by a trusted source. So how exactly does one break into an employer's inner circle? Well, read on. Get them to recommend you Let us examine some of the individuals or organizations any company would need to work with. An average company would need at least one...

Throwing a party can be a great way to reunite with your old buddies, business associates or to share some relaxing moments in a laid back environment with your near and dear ones. If you are planning for a cocktail party, then definitely it will work like icing on the cake for the liquor lovers. Planning a cocktail party is not an arduous task if you posses crystal clear knowledge of what are the necessary arrangements required to be made. Sending invitations and decorating the venue- these are some of the common arrangements which are made by everybody. But for organizing lavishing cocktail party, the due consideration is required for arranging professional bartender services and the barware items...

People love going to a cocktail party. These get togethers are fun not only for the guests but for the host as well. This type of party creates a relaxed atmosphere that encourages different groups of your friends to meet one another in a fun setting. If you are a first time cocktail party host, make sure you follow these tips so that your party goes off without a hitch! It is important to make sure that you have a large enough space to accommodate the number of people you are planning to invite. Cocktail parties are usually held later in the evening so it is best to have an indoor and outdoor space open for your guests. Ideally, you would have a living room that opens out onto an outdoor porch so...

Do you have an upcoming cocktail party in this week? You see, for being a successful host event, you need to learn the few steps before throwing an amazing cocktail party. 1. Make sure to shop lots of ice! That's right! Plenty of ice will be needed for chilling bottles of wine or champagne. Yeah, not to mention for serving in drinks on the rocks! As a good host, stock up pile of ice on your fridge is a good cocktail party management. 2. Be ready with a variety of glass styles! You're going to need them to cover the type of drinks you plan to serve. These include from martini glasses, wine glasses for wines, tumblers for spirits and juices, straight-sided highballs for tall drinks to juice and water...

Many bartenders started out their career as a bar-back or a server in a restaurant and worked their way to bartending as their career progressed. Anyone who's worked in the hospitality industry can tell you that bartending is among the more lucrative positions in the industry, with average incomes in a bar with a good amount of traffic around $150 to $300 a night. On the high end, at five nights a week that's about $6000 a month or $72,000 a year. The average income for most bartenders is around $50,000/yr. considering both hourly salary and tips. Why would you want to spend the money on bar schools when you could just start as a server or bar-back and work your way there? If you're a server, you...

Give the best party ever! The occasion, though, can be frightening if you do not succeed to plan in advance! Just dream what a terrible status you could get by giving a dull and lifeless party. That is why you should do everything not to fail! There are a lot of features of the party planning that you will have to focus to. But, to make sure that you bring interest and life to your party, you may find it at this moment to employ services of some people. Party Services You can be unaided in directing the party strategies. But, at the precise day of the occasion, you will find that you cannot carry out single-handedly. You cannot do it by yourself. You will have to engage party services to execute...

Bar jobs are especially geared towards applicants with people skills. There is lots of communication going on and general skills involving talking to other people are highly desired in this profession. For those who can't sit still for a second these are great opportunities either as part time or full time occupation. Bartender positions are not particularly difficult or complicated to get hold of but there are a few things everyone should take into consideration before applying to a position in the local paper. 1. Legal regulations enforce bar owners to hire people dealing with alcohol over the legal age. I think it's easy to understand why but it doesn't hurt anyone to make sure everyone knows...

If you love to play the field and do not want to take the plunge with any single girl or woman then you could embark on a dating spree with different dates. In fact, if you play your cards right, you could easily end up with more than one date in a night. Here are 7 ways on how to pull it off. The 1st way is to circulate within different groups of friends and to date only one girl from each group. This will ensure that no two girls discuss their dates with each other since that could simply blow your cover off. The 2nd tip is to fix up different timings with different girls and to allow a margin of error to take care of any delays such as a flat tire, your date leaving late, etc. The 3rd tip is to...

If you're interested in becoming a bartender, you may be considering attending a bartending school. This is typically a good idea, since you'll need to know many different drink recipes before you begin tending bar for real. You'll find that there are plenty of bartending schools available, so it may be difficult to choose the right one. There are several things to consider when choosing a bartending school. The first, for many people, is cost. You'll need to closely compare the tuition you'll pay with the benefit/training you'll receive. Consider student loans and tuition assistance along with the actual cost of the program. The best program isn't always the most expensive or the least expensive. A...

If you have never experienced a job such as bartending, then you really might be confused in thinking that it is an easy, fun, exciting, stress free job. I have often heard that bartending would just be the coolest, all you really have to do is fix a variety of drinks, have a little chit chat here and there and make money for being nice. You need to understand before you decide to get yourself a bartending job that it is much different than you might have first thought. Sure, it can be fun and exciting and slow nights might not be so difficult but, if you have yourself a good bartending job at a busy, popular club or bar, you need to be prepared to work your tail off, seriously! Bartending can be...

When ever we see the movie Cocktail we are filled with the desire to be able to serve alcoholic drinks in such great way. Now while Tom Cruise’s character learned all of his drink recipes and tips and tricks at a bar you can learn these same things from bartending colleges. The really great aspect of this is that you will gain a degree for being able to mix and serve drinks to customers. In addition the other benefits that you can get from going to these colleges are strong incentives for continuing your course. Now before you look for the nearest bartending colleges in your area you might want to do some research. This research can help narrow your choice of bartending colleges to the ones that...

So you've decided that you want to be a bartender, and you're looking for your options as far as getting into the industry while minimizing your stress and maximizing your income from the first shift. A friend told you about attending a bartender's school, or your web searches have led you to consider the idea of attending a bar school - and you've ended up here, wondering how you're going to choose a quality school to teach you the ropes. So, what should you look for in a bartender's school? What, exactly are the telltale signs of a good institution of mixology? Before you choose your school, make sure you actually physically visit the school and speak to the staff. Check to be sure their text...

If you work in a service where you get tips, guess what? The IRS expects you to report them and pay taxes on them. Your Tip Earnings and Taxes The internal revenue service takes a very simple approach to tips. It views all tips you make in your job as taxable income that must be reported and for which taxes must be paid. Put another way, the IRS has a simple but brutal view towards taxes Now tips come in different forms. Some are received directly from customers while others are automatically added to the customer's bill. The IRS takes the position you must report and pay taxes on both amounts. This also includes taxes you earn through any group splitting where all tips are collected together and...

ign="center"> So you want to learn how to increase your tips? If you want to learn the time tested techniques that will help fatten your wallet, then you must read this report. This report will show you 2 fr.ee tips I guarantee will work. It's great to learn hundreds of recipes but it is so much more than that, and I am going to explain to you what I am talking about. In this special report I will NOT give you a cookie cutter, bartending school lecture on bartending recipes and blah, blah, blah. I am going to cut all the fluff and just tell you how it's done. The key here is that regardless of how many drinks you know how to make; even if you mix up a horrible drink every time you bartend you...

Job Placement The most important factor of a bartending school is the Job placement services. Questions that you should ask the bartending schools are How many graduates have found jobs after taking the bartending course Names of bars, restaurants, or establishments that hired from the bar school How long the bartending school has been open Do they have a program where students can guest bartend for experience at an establishment What resources are available after graduation to help the student find a job How many hours of class instruction is included How long will the job placement service be available after graduation The instructors experience in bartending Good bartending schools like good...

Being a bartender is one of the most amazing jobs you can have. Even though it may be a dream some parents may frown at, there are actually a lot of good things about being a bartender. Not only do the better employed bartenders tend to earn reasonable salaries, they are known for their style and grace while doing their jobs, as well as their charm and pleasant personalities when dealing with customers. So you see being a bartender is one of the better professions you can have. And when you are situated correctly, one of the more glamorous. But where do you have to be situated to take advantage of the best places to become a bartender? If you've picked up all the tricks and are ready to join the big...

Legends of Bartending XII was held earlier this month to determine who is the greatest flair bartender around the globe. The sport was introduced to many Americans in 'Cocktail', the 1988 film starring Tom Cruise. However, this competition shows the sport has grown to be so much more. This invitation only two day event hosted elite bartenders from party bars around the world at LAX, a distinguished venue amongst Vegas bars and clubs, to battle for the title. Danilo Oribe ended up grabbing the title amongst a tough field of competition. Oribe, having taken third place in the previous three Legends of Bartending contests, was one of the favorites going into the competition. He rose to the occasion...

Setting up your own bar is actually quite easy to do.  There are however, a few things that good bartenders need to know to run a bar efficiently.  In order for a bar to succeed, you’ll need to have the basic wines, liquors, and spirits - along with the right equipment.  Although these things are essential, bartenders also need the proper technique for mixing drinks and cocktails as well. With bartending, the location of the bar is very important.  The bar should be placed in an area that is easy to reach and provides plenty of space behind it.  There should be plenty of room for glasses and drinks, along with a chair or two as well.  The bartender has to learn the area behind the bar, and...

If you're considering becoming a bartender as either a full or part time job, it's best to know going in that you've got a lot to learn going in to this area. While many bars or restaurants will have a "cheat sheet" available to you when you're not sure about how to make a particular drink or when you're first learning, they expect you to know many of them, especially the most popular ones, by memory very quickly. Whether someone's asking for a Jaeger-bomb or one of your establishment's signature martinis, you better know exactly how to make it. You'll also need to know proper sanitation processes, personal hygiene requirements, customer service, etc. Many people think that learning to bartend is as...

Along with the question "how much money do bartenders make", you should consider some of the other benefits that stem from bartending. Bartending can provide many other benefits rather than just cash. Bartending allows for travel, social skill development, part-time hours, and relative ease of entry into the profession. Bartending falls under the umbrella of the hospitality industry. Bartending affords you the opportunity to meet all different types of people and to work at many exciting locations around the globe. A good bartender can work in posh resorts or 5 star hotels and restaurants. One of the great benefits of bartending is ability to make a full time income from part time hours. Since you...

At any celebration or social gathering, most people will want to have some sort of a drink, whether it's a coffee, a soft drink, or an alcoholic beverage. Non alcoholic drinks are the easiest to serve, because you can simply pour them out of a bottle without any mixing or additions. To serve alcoholic drinks, you need to either know some bartending facts and bartending tricks or hire a professional bartender. There are schools you can attend that are devoted to training people to become top notch bartenders. These schools teach both basic skills as well as the bartending facts that you should know. In each of these classes the students will be given hands-on training in bartending and mixing drinks...

Every year in the United States, 15,000 people die as a result of accidents with drunk drivers. Lives are ruined. Victims have their lives and futures taken from them, their families and friends lose someone special and meaningful to them, and the drunk drivers find their lives and freedoms severely restricted, and have to live with the guilt for the rest of their lives. It's a horrible, tragically preventable problem in this country today. All of us are responsible for doing our part to prevent such a waste of human life. While drunk drivers are ultimately the ones responsible for injuring and killing their victims, there are other people who are partly culpable as well. The people who knowingly...

The restaurant industry features among the most lucrative and satisfying of job providers. Offering a whole range of positions ranging from a waiter to a restaurant manager, more and more people are carving a rewarding career with this industry. The best part about this industry is that it remains largely unaffected from economic fluctuations. It is perhaps no wonder that the number of students opting and graduating from courses catering to the restaurant industry is at an all time high. However, even with jobs and prospective employees in fair abundance, there are certain problems affecting their rewarding union. The Need for a Comprehensive Database: Both the job seekers and providers in the...

Most of the people who take their first bartending job do it as a part time thing that will help them make a bit of money to get by. Sometimes it then proves to be quite exciting and lucrative in a way that many decide to make it into their chosen career. Before jumping into bartending as a long term career however, one must know that there are pitfalls and tips that they need to be fully informed about if they want to succeed. One has to realize that landing the first professional bartending gig is one of the hardest things in the business. Even applicants who showed their professional prowess have been turned down very many times when looking for their first job. Attending a bartending training...

Legal Requirements The minimum age requirement to become a bartender in the state of Maryland is 18. There are some cities, Annapolis for instance, where the minimum age is 21. Here is a chart with the other state's minimum ages to become a certified bartender: AK - 21 AZ - 19 AR - 18 CA - 21 CO - 18 CT - 18 DE - 21 DC - 21 FL - 18 GA - 18 HI - 18 ID - 19 IL - 18* IN - 21 IA - 18 KS - 21 KY - 20 LA - 18 MA - 18 ME - 18 MD - 18* MI - 18 MN - 18 MS - 18 MO - 21 MT - 21 NE - 19 NV - 21 NH - 18 NJ - 18 NY - 18 NM - 21 NC - 21 ND - 21 OH - 21 OK - 21 OR - 21 PA - 18 RI - 18 SC - 21 SD - 18 TN - 18 TX - 18 UT - 21 VT - 18 VA - 21 WA - 21 WV - 18 WI - 18 WY - 21 * Indicates Stricter Cities of 21 Aside...

At twenty three years old, I have held more than my fair share of jobs. Among these, however, the best has, without a doubt, been my career as a bartender. I love being a bartender. It is an extremely fun job that allows me to meet myriads of interesting people and get to know all about their fascinating lives. These are just some of the reasons that bartending is such a rewarding career. This is why when people ask me if they should start a career in bartending, I always encourage them. I love this job and I want other people to have the chance to love it too. However, when people begin asking me about going to Bartending School, I am less enthusiastic. Some people think that in order to be...

What do ministers...bartenders...hairdressers...and therapists have in common? Tip 1 -- All of you are magnets for the lonely... the troubled and the misunderstood because, ministers, bartenders, therapists and hairdressers are all good listeners. If you want to check that...just type "bartenders as therapists" into a search engine. In an age when we are bombarded with factoids and information... someone who will listen to you... without judging you... is a real find. Tip 2 -- Understand that the regard people have for you is mostly a 'transference'...a fantasized you. They are endowing you with qualities that you might not have...but which they are convinced you do have. So...here's the bad news...