| Confidence starts with overcoming your fears. A | | | | don't have to succeed on your first try. Try hard, |
| lot of men experience this fear of talking to | | | | push yourself even if you are shaky and seemed |
| women. There is nothing more effective way of | | | | to be tongue-tied. Repeat your opener to a |
| overcoming your fear but to face it. And there | | | | different girl or group of girls. As you do this, you |
| are six effective ways to start overcoming your | | | | will notice that your shakiness is lessened and you |
| fear with women. | | | | are starting to talk straight. Just be creative on |
| 1. Choose a bar. I would suggest that you go | | | | what opener to use. |
| alone. Being alone forces you to talk to people | | | | 4. If you feel that the conversation is not going to |
| you do not know. This is a good opportunity to | | | | end in a good one, then you can always opt to |
| face your fear. Go ahead and try to talk to | | | | move out. You can choose to go on or leave. It's |
| strangers. Talk to anyone. Try talking to the bar | | | | your choice. Remember you don't always have to |
| tender or the waitress. Or simply you can choose | | | | succeed. There is always a next time. |
| not to talk at all to anyone. Just get the feel of | | | | 5. Continue on talking to every girl in the bar. Just |
| the bar. Then go home, but next time, try your | | | | be very careful and look out for a jealous |
| best to talk to at least one stranger. | | | | boyfriend or you'll end up being beaten. Try to |
| 2. Relax. Take a deep breath and go talk to a girl. | | | | choose those who seemed to have an all-girl |
| Usually girls go out in a bar in groups. Just go on | | | | company. Don't stop counting, your goal here is to |
| talk to your target girl, or you can opt to all the | | | | get used to the feeling of talking to women. As |
| girls in the group at the same time. Try picking a | | | | you continue on, you will notice that it gets easier. |
| small group first. If you feel a little shaky, always | | | | 6. Now when you get home go in front of a |
| remember to breathe. Stop worrying about | | | | mirror and congratulate yourself. You have just |
| rejection. It will only do you more harm than | | | | taken a big step in overcoming your fear. |
| good. If you don't try now you may not have an | | | | Remember, you will never overcome your fear if |
| opportunity later. | | | | you don't take the courage to face it. All you |
| 3. Try to formulate an opener. Remember you | | | | have to do is take that first step. |